On Being Attached
When I am attached to an outcome or a desire it becomes a demand, if I am unattached, it is a request.
Notice what those two words mean to you, request, and demand. When you ask for something from your heart, unattached to the outcome, it is a request. This gives the person that you are asking the opportunity to say no, without consequences. Without hurting your feelings or having you get upset. Once you have made a request, unattached, then if the person decides to say ‘yes’, then they get to give you a GIFT.
Once you are attached to the outcome, when you ask for it, it becomes a demand. Think about the energy you have when you ask for something that you REALLY want, and you know you will feel disappointed if the answer is no… Imagine this energy paralleling that of a child in a toy store that immediately becomes attached to a toy, and throws a temper tantrum in the middle of a store. Even if the child gets the toy, they are less likely to feel excited about it, and the adult feels as though they have lost a battle.
Inquiry # 4: Where have you been “attached” to something and as a result, been a demand? What would be different if you asked for what you wanted from your heart, unattached? How can you include what others want to expand your options?
