Comments on: Taking Things Personally http://radicalleadership.com/general/takingthingspersonally/ Thu, 04 Feb 2010 02:50:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Therese Sparby http://radicalleadership.com/general/takingthingspersonally/comment-page-1/#comment-85 Therese Sparby Thu, 17 Dec 2009 21:44:51 +0000 http://radicalleadership.com/?p=551#comment-85 Today I have definitely taken something personally! I had created an invitation for a family gathering with the intention that this gathering would be something new, exciting and a fun time to gather together. I crafted an invitation that "I thought" welcomed my family to just such a party. When I received feedback that my invite did not deliver that impact, I took it personally and got upset. Here I am a few hours later, after walking my dog in the crisp winter air, and I am feeling much clearer. I have been asking myself the questions above to peel apart what I thought was absolutely true (thoughts like 'I was attacked', 'My invitation was worded perfectly and everyone else would have loved it') and I am beginning to take ownership of the part that I played in taking the feedback personally. I noticed that part of the reason for the harsh feedback was because the invitation I had created did not fit with this person's vision of the ideal christmas party(a vision she was attached to). And that she had been assuming a few different things that were not true about what I had put on the invite. This resistance coupled with my taking it personally, created a disaster. I so appreciate having simple guides (such as the one mentioned in this post) that help me get to WHAT IS SO and release toxic energy so that I can create new possibilities. The invite has been completely re-worded with a collaborative effort, and I am looking forward to a fabulous family gathering! Thank you for the wonderful post! Today I have definitely taken something personally! I had created an invitation for a family gathering with the intention that this gathering would be something new, exciting and a fun time to gather together. I crafted an invitation that “I thought” welcomed my family to just such a party. When I received feedback that my invite did not deliver that impact, I took it personally and got upset.

Here I am a few hours later, after walking my dog in the crisp winter air, and I am feeling much clearer. I have been asking myself the questions above to peel apart what I thought was absolutely true (thoughts like ‘I was attacked’, ‘My invitation was worded perfectly and everyone else would have loved it’) and I am beginning to take ownership of the part that I played in taking the feedback personally.

I noticed that part of the reason for the harsh feedback was because the invitation I had created did not fit with this person’s vision of the ideal christmas party(a vision she was attached to). And that she had been assuming a few different things that were not true about what I had put on the invite. This resistance coupled with my taking it personally, created a disaster.

I so appreciate having simple guides (such as the one mentioned in this post) that help me get to WHAT IS SO and release toxic energy so that I can create new possibilities. The invite has been completely re-worded with a collaborative effort, and I am looking forward to a fabulous family gathering!

Thank you for the wonderful post!

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