Do What We Most Want and Have the Greatest Impact
Let’s continue our discussion on Patterns . . .
Question:
Are we doing what we most want to do and at the same time, having the greatest impact on the world around us?
See for yourself:
- What is it that you love doing?
- Where could that talent/love/gift best be used to create more of what you want?
- If you did what you loved and what you wanted, how would that be “in service of others” at the same time?
- What are three of your best excuses for not doing what you love?
- What would be possible if you let go of those excuses…and any others?
- Think about a time in your life when you were doing this thing you love? What was the impact on you? What was the impact on others?
What specific Pattern derails you from what you want? Stop and think about how this Pattern emerges; how it feels, your breathing when this pattern is running, the “thinking structure” that runs with this Pattern? (Examples might include a conversation that runs over and over in your head saying the same thing it always says; something like: That guy is a jerk, all those people are the same, people just want to screw you over; I don’t have to ask for permission for anything; nobody is going to rule my life; I can justify what I’m doing here…I’m doing it for their own good, etc.)
We confuse these Patterns with who we are instead of the fact that they are just a “Pattern” or thinking structure that found a way to survive and continued to use this as a way of protecting and defending against the vulnerability of intimacy and showing up being ourselves. These Patterns have a cellular structure to them; have a stored verbal construct (the voice inside your head that predictably says the same thing again and again when this Pattern hits); there’s a breathing pattern that goes with these beliefs and the body will position itself in a certain way as well.
Therese Kienast, MCC, CPCC
Founder, Radical Leadership
